There are various strands to this question:
The ideal situation:
You are represented by an agent who is very familiar with your looks, skills and experience. They do not have anyone else on their books with exactly this mix. You trust them to put you up for anything you are suitable for - and accept that sometimes your opinions on your own suitability/relevant experience will differ and their experience of the industry should normally trump your enthusiasm. You have a reasonable line of communication with your agent: your agent knows that you will only contact them when it is urgent in a business sense. You don't contact them every time you spot something, especially if it's something out in the public domain, because you trust that they will know about it and will have submitted you if suitable. If it's something that is absolutely your dream role, the one you fit like a glove, you may not be able to resist checking with the agent that you have been submitted. The agent will probably sigh, but will understand and will reassure you. If you do this all the time, they will get fed up.
The difficulties:
1. You have no idea how many people your agent represents. You don't know how many clashing clients they have. You are frightened to contact them. You have no confidence that they spot opportunities and will submit you when required.
Potential solutions: a) look for work yourself and hope your agent doesn't find out (why have an agent?)
b) look for work yourself and submit yourself with your agent's name as the contact and let your agent know that you have done this
c) chase your agent to ensure that you have been submitted for any roles you are suitable for
d) ask for a breakdown of all roles you have been submitted for over the last 6 months - perhaps then you will be reassured in part that the agent is working for you
2. notanaveragjoe's problem (or what I understand it to be): your agent has lots of clients like you - you are among the least experienced. Your agent will (and should) always put the client forward who is
most likely to get the job. That is the agent behaving in a responsible way that the CD will appreciate - and it is good for business. If you have seen the job, the agent is quite likely to have seen it too - if not now, then in the future. They are unlikely to submit you when you "tell" them to
IF they think that their own reputation as an agency will be damaged as a result. However, they may say "I will submit you if you are really keen" - so you can certainly ask. If you have the right skills they may already have submitted you - if you don't, is there any point in applying for this one? Wait until one comes up where you do have the right skills. Also, you may wish to look around for another agency where you are not in competition with lots of people like you within the agency.
3. mouskouri41: I don't think you have too much to worry about here. The stage school won't be taking commission (presumably they are not representing your dd?), so any job offer can go to the agent to deal with it. Unless I have misunderstood. In future though, I would
always advise letting your agent know about any kind of submission/application for a role. You could be counting yourself out of a much bigger opportunity that your agent is working towards. Your agent should be kept informed at all times.
4.Livvyvicky: I would advise having a "once and for all" conversation with your agent about this. How do they want you to deal with opportunities you spot? If you think it is something your agent hasn't seen, then an email to the agent might be all that is needed, just to check. An agent can tell you how they like to communicate. I trust that anything I see on Spotlight my agent will submit me for if suitable - if she is not sure whether I am suitable
she might do a skill check or availability check before submitting me. If I spot something I think she may possibly not have seen - I email her to check. It's rare that I do this - mostly she has already seen it and submitted me. Because I only rarely check, she doesn't get annoyed when I do.
5.michbv: I think it's the same as Livvyvicky's situation above
I hope some of that is helpful/makes sense.
All just my opinion - as ever.