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About this forum and who runs it

Postby admin » Wed May 09, 2018 9:19 am

Having read some of the comments on here about admin taking down posts I thought some of the those who don't know me or about this site should understand why its here and what happens later.

This site is now over 12 years old. It was set up by a mum and a few others such as myself when our kids were about 10ish and just getting some major roles.

At that time the rules regarding licencing and working regulations existed but were at best (unless you were with the BBC) being very loosely followed. I remember one shoot with my then 5 year old for a commercial that went on from 8am set time to after 8pm in the evening wrap and we had to battle to get an extra days money rather than a couple of hours overtime because of course overtime should and is illegal in these circumstances.

The board was meant to help parents navigate the performing arts world, help newcomers and stop them being exploited by over high joining fees admin charges and commsision from agencies, and be a safe space for parents to discuss this world with likeminded parents when sometimes those who dont understand simply make uncomfortable remarks.

In those days there weren't as many productions around using child performers on stage so the work was mainly film, TV and commercials that was discussed. The agencies were different too and over the last few years I have been impressed with some of the newer agencies that have sprung up who are much more clued up about managing the whole process for their clients.

There are no charges for the parents who use this site and I bear the cost and time of keping it going because I feel it still has a purpose although if I get much more abuse I will just pull the plug as none of my children are even distantly involved anymore.

My children gained a huge amount from their experiences not least several amazing overseas trips, and a CV that gets future employees interested enought to call them in to interview. They have learnt that rejection isn't always because they have failed just that this wasn't the right role for them, and of course how to interact with a diverse range of people. They have learnt be nice to everyone learning that todays runner could be the next big shot director and also to only make a fuss when it matters.

One was signed by a major international agency, won a bucket of awards especially for his voice work and a breakout film from a now very well known director, and the other got to perform in some of his favourite TV shows as well as travel 1st class around the world. They all have memories worth treasuring but now have moved on in their lives and are in my opinion lovely well rounded professionals in their 20's working in totally unrelated industries but with a portfolio of work that we can embarrass them with for the rest of their lives.

I guess is what I'm trying to say to those who don't know the board that this world can be all consuming when you are involved. Taxi service, supporter, lesson payer, mum or dad and chaperone are roles you will be called on to perform whilst pursing these parts but they should not be allowed to interfere with just teaching your children how to mature into adults worth knowing. They will take their lead from you so please think about how your feelings might be affecting your youngsters and look to placing in them the idea that whatever the outcomes from castings they are just stepping stones to learning about the world.

Finally please dont feel you cant discuss things such as dispointment or even frustration with a process, casting directors and agents do regullarly look on this board, and sometimes they need to know how parents feel, but please remember kids read the site too.

Also this is actually a small world and people can often work out who people are. However please use this board in the spirit it was set up as a supporting informational service that isnt run for profit, there are no adverts I dont charge anything to run it but it takes up some of my spare time every day trying to keep the spam and porn off the site so be aware of that. There is also a facebook page where I dont monitor anything if you want more general chats and of course the twitter feed passes on whatever it can about castings expecially for those without an agent. (If you dont like the political comments then just dont follow I make no apologies for my views on twitter so don't bother sending me anymore messages about that I will just block you from the feed!)

Finally successful or not the journey through childhood performing will open experiences and opportunities to treasure. Many years later you will look back at them and hopefully smile. So treat everyone with respect and enjoy the ride, and if any of your youngsters become really successful please let us know its lovely to hear the good news too. All achievements are always worth celebrating so feel free to celebrate with this by and large very supportive community.
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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby missmoneypenny » Wed May 09, 2018 10:51 am

Oh thanks for that admin :) I have been using this forum for 10 years but didn't know any of that, so it is really good to hear from your side, easy to forget someone holds it all together. This forum has been an incredible resource for me and my acting children, and I cannot imagine it not being here. You deserve a huge pat on the back for keeping it together all this time, big well done and thank you! xx

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby jennifer1972 » Wed May 09, 2018 4:08 pm

Yes, I agree. You do a great job and the collective knowledge on here is invaluable. You should be very proud of the community that you have created! I think we all feel that some friends and family just don't get what we go through, having kids who perform but you will always find someone on here who gets it EXACTLY and who you can totally relate to. =D>

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby Katymac » Wed May 09, 2018 6:00 pm

I and several friends of mine rely on here heavily for information and support

Running it must be a never ending and probably generally thankless task

So thank you so much for all you do - it is most appreciated

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby ScoobyDoo » Wed May 09, 2018 7:11 pm

Thank you so much for your work on this website, it is such an invaluable font of information and is so helpful. We have not had much yet, DS is only 10, but I really, really feel that the experience DS is getting is amazing, he has dealt with rejection, hard work, he is able to walk into a room with adults he has never met before and speak with them. I feel that all this can only lead to making him a much more rounded and grounded individual as he grows up.

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby Adrianna1312 » Wed May 09, 2018 9:15 pm

Thank you for all you do. This site has been invaluable to me over the last year and I imagine many more to come xx

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby riverdancefan » Wed May 09, 2018 9:20 pm

As ever, thank you for running this site, as a Mum new to performing arts a few years ago now, I really value the site and all the help I gained from it and generous contributors.
I miss Paulears and PG as they are fonts of knowledge.
Ultimately it’s a small old world this performing lark and yes there is unfairness by the bucketload bit of you need to vent, vent to your friends in private.
We all need to sound off! But a public forum isn’t always the best place.
You do a fab job !
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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby admin » Thu May 10, 2018 8:14 am

Thanks Riverdancefan, I miss the wisdom of Paulears and PG too, you realise that makes you one of the fonts of wisdom now and it has been fun watching your DS success.
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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby 38ta » Thu May 10, 2018 9:26 am

I also really appreciate the time & effort taken by you invisible folk behind the scenes. Having done things myself for others I sympathise with how frustrating it can be at times & how much easier it could be to walk away. Please don’t as we all still need the information & support.

Many of us are non performers who are suddenly shocked to have a child start performing arts as a fun hobby to build confidence but then it turns out they are actually surprisingly talented & we don’t know what to do with them :D .

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby emi's mum » Thu May 10, 2018 10:39 pm

Hello again old friends! I’ve not posted on here as a mum for such a long time but I do dip in for a read here and there and keep my finger on the pulse so to speak.
I joined up when my daughter was just 8. She’s now 15 and still working here and there and hoping to make a career out if it if she can.
I can honestly say this forum was a lifeline when she first started and not only has it lead to new friendships and lots of good advice but also in recent years helped me establish my business as an agent.
I think we all take for granted all you do to keep this site going... so from me and from Em...thank you for all you’ve done and continue to do. I don’t think many of us would have survived without NAPM along the way and it’s a brilliant platform for parents to realise we are all in the same boat when it comes to our own children. It’s a minefield even for those of us from a performing background.
It’s great to see newer members continuing to share advice and information and supporting one another along with the names I still recognise.
It’s a bumpy road in this business for new comers and veterans alike but the adventures along the way make it all worthwhile. Persevere and keep getting back up every time you’re knocked back. There is always a positive to be taken from every audition.
Much love to all x

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby Proseccoplease » Fri May 11, 2018 12:51 pm

I have learnt so much on this site I couldn't possibly have learnt anywhere else! I literally had no idea about what to do about DS at 16 as there is so little support where we are in the middle of no where and no one to ask! Thank goodness for all the great advise on training as I now have new schools and colleges to consider! Don't go admin-we need you!

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby Pandora II » Fri May 11, 2018 1:22 pm

A huge thank you for all the work you put in running this site!
As someone who has no connections with the performing arts world, it has been a shock to find out that the simple MT class as 'something to do on a Sunday for high energy child' has morphed into what sometimes feels like a second fulltime job.

The wonderful people on this forum have given so much help and advice at times that I was feeling very lost, and my DD now has new friends, a new agent, new and fabulous training and some very exciting opportunities all because of what I learnt here.

It's a world that definitely has its frustrations, and a massive amount of disappointment and not particularly parent-friendly and its so nice to be able to share with others in the same boat - who understand and don't just think you are bonkers for allowing your child to put themselves through the things they do!

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby esmum » Fri May 11, 2018 11:08 pm

I joined this group about 7 years ago. When another Mum, with an older performing child, told me about it.
I was totally green about the industry, still only know a little :D
However it has been invaluable. Especially the support and camaraderie - when auditioning, recalling - then often unsuccessful.
Then the celebration when things turn out well - but mostly, the feeling that this is such a small world. That our children grow up and while they may stay in the industry, or not, they have learned life skills that are invaluable, and transferable, to whatever field they persue.
From a parents perspective - meeting a fellow 'notapushymum' has been so much fun too.
So Admin, thanks very much - keep going! =D> =D> =D>

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Re: About this forum and who runs it

Postby TalyaB » Mon May 14, 2018 8:54 am

I'm also hugely grateful to this site - I found it by chance when DS was ten and doing an MT Saturday class and I didn't know the first thing about the performing arts world. I'm sure that without NAPM he'd never have auditioned for Matilda, which led to a year in that, a year playing Michael in Billy Elliot, a lead with NYMT and getting into the NYT. Now 17, he's no longer acting, dancing or singing, and wants to study History at uni, but he wrote and directed a play his school put on and we've all had so many experiences thanks to my having found this website. I always recommend it, so a huge thank you for everything you do, admin, and to everyone who posts and shares their experiences and advice so very generously.

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